Scoutiegirl asks: Do you struggle with a need to put a label on yourself and what you do? Do you make excuses or offer explanation where none is needed?
I believe labels are a way for the other person in conversation to feel comfortable enough to continue conversation or introduce me to another more interesting conversationalist.
If my fellow conversationalist is awkward, I put my focus is on being of service. So I ask more questions, have compassion and listen. When I’m at my best, I seek connection in my attitude and not judgment (of myself or others). I try to imagine that like me, other people don’t want to be rejected, pigeonholed or blown off.
Sometimes people are just doing a quick scan based on their needs. They might be seeking a lawyer or a marathon-training buddy. If it’s not me, I might have a connection for them and they might have a good one for me.
If I keep an open attitude and a smile, I trust that the more interesting sparkly people will come my way eventually.
• Labels are just the social lubricant of conversation.
• Being labeled doesn’t bother me the more I am at peace with myself.
• Making up labels up for myself is fun flirting.
• Give people the opportunity to share about themselves.
• Labels are like tags. We’re all just fishing for connection.
How do you introduce yourself? What is your gift label? How can you be kind and generous in conversation?